Walking into a sex shop (or browsing online) can be overwhelming. There are thousands of options, and it’s hard to know what’s safe, what’s good, and what you’ll actually use. Toys are a normal and healthy way to explore your own body and to add fun to partnered sex. Here’s what you need to know.
1. Materials Matter Most Your number one priority is a body-safe material.
- Best: 100% Silicone (Medical-Grade). It’s non-porous (so it won’t harbor bacteria), easy to clean, and durable. Use it with water-based lubricants only (silicone lube can degrade it).
- Great: Glass or Metal. These are also non-porous, hygienic, and can be heated or cooled for temperature play.
- Use With Caution: Jelly/TPR. These toys are often cheaper and feel soft, but they are porous. They can harbor bacteria, are harder to clean, and should never be shared.
2. The Main Categories
- Vibrators: These are for stimulation. A “bullet” is small and great for external use. A “wand” is larger and provides deep, rumbly vibrations. “Rabbit” vibrators offer both internal and external stimulation.
- Dildos: These are non-vibrating toys designed for penetration. They come in all shapes, sizes, and materials.
- Couples’ Toys: Items like vibrating cock rings or remote-controlled vibrators are designed to be used by both partners at the same time.
3. Lube and Cleaning are Non-Negotiable Lube makes everything safer and more comfortable. For cleaning, use a dedicated toy cleaner or a mild, unscented soap and warm water after every use. Dry them completely and store them in a cloth bag (not touching each other, as some materials can react).
